Post by Dave on Apr 17, 2013 16:59:39 GMT
Aug 26, 2010 at 8:38pm
My dear Carol had kept something secret from me that she knew was going to take place today and while I knew it was going to happen at sometime, I did not know it was going to take place today. Around 6.30pm this evening I felt she started to have a look of disappointment on here face and she went a bit quite and when I asked her if everything was OK, she just replied that everything was just fine.
Then 15 minutes later the phone rang and I could tell by her greeting she gave the caller it was someone she knew and I just thought it was a friend or family member, that was until she came into the living room with the biggest smile on her face saying “YES YES YES”
Carol today is such a different person than the one I met 18 years ago, back then she never had an once of self confidence and wouldn’t say boo to a goose and would only talk to people she knew
We started going out as boyfriend and girlfriend in 1992 and did not get married until the August of 2002 and when people used to ask her why we were not married yet, she would reply Dave’s not ready yet. She was right as due to the terrible emotional effects my divorce had on me I was uncertain if I ever wanted to get married ever again, but living with carol was bound to change my mind as she simply is the most wonderful person I have ever known or been so lucky to have had as a true friend.
Ten years ago she started her first proper job (she got wed young) at a care home and while the manager felt she was a good worker was unsure if she would fit in as she was so quite and kept herself to herself for the reasons I have already mentioned. But over the years she gained more self confidence and started to become a very self assured person.
Two months after we were married she discovered that lump that was to change the way we both had to look at life and it was at that time I really discovered her true greatness and courage and determination that would put most people to shame. One op followed by an even bigger one and when she had chemo she only booked the next day after the treatment as her day off and she never took a single day of work sick while her work mates seemed to go sick all the time.
Every now and then she was asked to act up as senior for some of her shifts and as she is unflappable and always remains calm did the job ever so well. Then three and a half years ago a few months before she found out the cancer had come back, a very rare post came up for a senior and Carol put in for it and everyone just expected the job to be hers.
I was so proud she had put in for it as now my Carol had self confidence and believed in herself and her own ability and on the morning of the interview before I left for work I wished her good luck and said by the time I come home you will be the new senior.
She phoned me after the interview and just broke down crying, she had not got the job and I was so very angry as not only was she the best candidate, she dam well deserved it and it knocked her back such a long way as for the first time in her life she had reached out and went for something and it all ended in bitter tears and disappointment. She said at the time she would not ever apply to be a senior ever again and would just be content being a carer at the home.
Two months later and the worst news ever the cancer is back and now it’s on her kidney as well, two more ops that resulted in her whole chest wall being removed just leaving a thin bit of skin to cover her rib bones on her right hand side. Chemo once again and it was clear she was in such pain and still she would not take a day off work, well the pain was a result of the fact she had been told a hot spot had been found on one of her ribs and the chemo only went and attacked that hot spot and broke the bone clean in two, not that she knew that until she had a further scan that showed up her broken rib and still she would not take a day off work.
A few months ago she was asked if she would do some of her shifts acting up as the senior and while she was unsure at first agreed and soon had the home working wonderfully on the days she was in charge. Then a post was advertised in the home for a senior and while Carol wanted the job she was unsure if she could take the disappointed again if she put in for and did not get it again.
We talked about for a while and I told her its what she wants and fully deserves and would be a real achievement for her after the person she was once was and all she has had to deal with in her life these last eight years.
Last night she was filling in some paper work for the job and did not tell me that today she was going to have an interview for it, there were two others after the job and Carol knew that as the interviews are done by someone from head office and done on a points system, this time she had to show them she was the right and only person for the job.
Well that phone call tonight was her manager giving her the good news and the joy I have had while writing this hearing her phoning her friends and family telling them the good news with such happiness and joy in her voice has taken away the blues I have been suffering all week.
Well done dear sweet Carol, its no more than you deserve and anyway I like it far more when we play doctors and nurse when you are dressed in your white uniform rather than the blue one.
My dear Carol had kept something secret from me that she knew was going to take place today and while I knew it was going to happen at sometime, I did not know it was going to take place today. Around 6.30pm this evening I felt she started to have a look of disappointment on here face and she went a bit quite and when I asked her if everything was OK, she just replied that everything was just fine.
Then 15 minutes later the phone rang and I could tell by her greeting she gave the caller it was someone she knew and I just thought it was a friend or family member, that was until she came into the living room with the biggest smile on her face saying “YES YES YES”
Carol today is such a different person than the one I met 18 years ago, back then she never had an once of self confidence and wouldn’t say boo to a goose and would only talk to people she knew
We started going out as boyfriend and girlfriend in 1992 and did not get married until the August of 2002 and when people used to ask her why we were not married yet, she would reply Dave’s not ready yet. She was right as due to the terrible emotional effects my divorce had on me I was uncertain if I ever wanted to get married ever again, but living with carol was bound to change my mind as she simply is the most wonderful person I have ever known or been so lucky to have had as a true friend.
Ten years ago she started her first proper job (she got wed young) at a care home and while the manager felt she was a good worker was unsure if she would fit in as she was so quite and kept herself to herself for the reasons I have already mentioned. But over the years she gained more self confidence and started to become a very self assured person.
Two months after we were married she discovered that lump that was to change the way we both had to look at life and it was at that time I really discovered her true greatness and courage and determination that would put most people to shame. One op followed by an even bigger one and when she had chemo she only booked the next day after the treatment as her day off and she never took a single day of work sick while her work mates seemed to go sick all the time.
Every now and then she was asked to act up as senior for some of her shifts and as she is unflappable and always remains calm did the job ever so well. Then three and a half years ago a few months before she found out the cancer had come back, a very rare post came up for a senior and Carol put in for it and everyone just expected the job to be hers.
I was so proud she had put in for it as now my Carol had self confidence and believed in herself and her own ability and on the morning of the interview before I left for work I wished her good luck and said by the time I come home you will be the new senior.
She phoned me after the interview and just broke down crying, she had not got the job and I was so very angry as not only was she the best candidate, she dam well deserved it and it knocked her back such a long way as for the first time in her life she had reached out and went for something and it all ended in bitter tears and disappointment. She said at the time she would not ever apply to be a senior ever again and would just be content being a carer at the home.
Two months later and the worst news ever the cancer is back and now it’s on her kidney as well, two more ops that resulted in her whole chest wall being removed just leaving a thin bit of skin to cover her rib bones on her right hand side. Chemo once again and it was clear she was in such pain and still she would not take a day off work, well the pain was a result of the fact she had been told a hot spot had been found on one of her ribs and the chemo only went and attacked that hot spot and broke the bone clean in two, not that she knew that until she had a further scan that showed up her broken rib and still she would not take a day off work.
A few months ago she was asked if she would do some of her shifts acting up as the senior and while she was unsure at first agreed and soon had the home working wonderfully on the days she was in charge. Then a post was advertised in the home for a senior and while Carol wanted the job she was unsure if she could take the disappointed again if she put in for and did not get it again.
We talked about for a while and I told her its what she wants and fully deserves and would be a real achievement for her after the person she was once was and all she has had to deal with in her life these last eight years.
Last night she was filling in some paper work for the job and did not tell me that today she was going to have an interview for it, there were two others after the job and Carol knew that as the interviews are done by someone from head office and done on a points system, this time she had to show them she was the right and only person for the job.
Well that phone call tonight was her manager giving her the good news and the joy I have had while writing this hearing her phoning her friends and family telling them the good news with such happiness and joy in her voice has taken away the blues I have been suffering all week.
Well done dear sweet Carol, its no more than you deserve and anyway I like it far more when we play doctors and nurse when you are dressed in your white uniform rather than the blue one.